How to Love a Black Woman: Review by Peggy Freeman

How to Love a Black Woman

Sequel to How to Love a Black Man


Donte’s friends James and Austin visit him while he waits for his wife, Kah’lia to come home from work.  Donte has planned a special night of romance and poetry for her, however, Dr. Kah’lia Matson is too busy flirting with her new office assistant Darnel to consider going straight home to her husband.  She spoils his surprise when she comes in at 2:00 a.m. drunk.  Kah’lia’s blames her drinking problem on being rapped several years prior and she is also disgruntled over Donte’s inability to find work.  Their problems are driving a wedge between the couple and they argue continually.  Kah’lia ends the argument by going to bed.  She uses the excuse that she has to get ready for the group therapy session she is holding the next day.


A series of group therapy sessions given by Dr. Kah’lia Matson reveals several complex issues that plague the female participants.  For example, Leeza Martinez unveils her inner thoughts in a dramatic scene where she talks about being locked in the closet by a father who was non- acceptant of her African American roots.  Her Latina cousin, Lerosa Mendoza was also discriminated against however, unlike Leeza who looks Black, Lerosa looks Latin.


Antagonist Michelle Geeter bullies her way into a corner when it is revealed that the source of her insecurity stems from teasing received as a child due to her dark skin.  Laurenda refuses to have anything to do with Black men after she and her mother were beaten by her father who was black.    Olita has a hard time understanding beauty comes from within and dresses provocatively to cover up the pain of being overweight.   To make matters worse, Dr. Kah’lia Matson is drunk during the entire session and Ms. “Shy Town,” Chicago 1999 beauty queen; Qualifah James carries a mirror and make-up kit everywhere to be reminded of her beauty.  Who knows if anyone will ever pry her away from her own self indulgence?


Be ready for an evening of laughter, drama and enlightenment as you are entertained with   emotional extremes that face many men and women in today’s society.  The play is entertaining and all of the actors are professional and “A” rated.  Most were in the sequel; How to Love a Black Man and if you saw that play you can look forward to this one.


Rene Margary has a natural gift for entertaining and engaging the audience.  She is a playwright, producer, director and talented actor.  Her material highlights moral principles and always offers a message of hope as she touches upon issues and solutions to life’s problem.


For more information and to buy a ticket call Brown Paper Tickets:  800-838-3006.  Groups & Organizations: 888-663-6083.  The Meta Theater, 801 Melrose Ave., Los Angeles, CA   90046 (On The Corner of Melrose & Ogden).   Friday, October, 5th, @ 8 PM SOLD OUT,   October, 6th. SOLD OUT @ 8 PM,  October, 7th,  @ 8PM.


Rene’ Margary (Writer/Director/Producer & Actor – Qualifah James)

Nei’Ce Knight Preuitt  (Asst. Producer – Olita Terraine)

Mikel Miller (Dante’ Matson)

Jennifer Hernandez (Dr. Kah’lia Matson)
La’ Keisha   Simon (Michelle Geeter)

Peter Morse (Asst. Producer – James)

Virginia Grigori (Lerosa, Mendoza)

Renee Margary (Qualifah James)

Marlon Sanders (Austin Banks)

Stacy Fields (Laurenda Jones)

J. Patrick Wise (Darnel Jones)

Marilyn Mark (Leeza Martinez)

Kapri Margary (Poet)






8 Responses to How to Love a Black Woman: Review by Peggy Freeman

  1. How to Love a Black Woman: Sequel to How to Love a Black Man -– is a play about real Black women, portrayed by real Black women and written/directed/produced by a real Black woman by the name of Rene Margary.

    Doesn’t stoop to cheap caricature when depicting the lives of Black women and the men who love them. Full of drama, pain, love, laughter, tolerance, forgiveness, acceptance, and catharsis by way of poetry – it’s not simply an exploration of Black female identity, but a 2-1/2 hour sojourn into the essence of what it means to be human, thereby transcending issues of race, culture and gender.

    Don’t let the title of the play scare you away if you aren’t Black – there’s something for everyone (I’m Asian, by the way).

    Well casted and acted (the playwright is also in the ensemble cast), it doesn’t come as a surprise this play was sold out during its run at The Meta Theater on Melrose – time for an extended run at a bigger venue for those of you who missed out.

    Looking forward to what Rene Margary will be coming up with next.

    • Liz,

      Wow!!!!!! As a writer, I can’t began to convey to you how it feels when someone gets it. When the gift that our creator has given me allows me to tug on the heart strings of the audience, trust me, I don’t take it for granted. I humble myself before greatness (the audience), and I just always try to say something in a way that provokes thought, and emotions (any kind)!!! I concur, the ensemble~~~AWESOME! We look forward to seeing you at the next event.

      You can find us at, and you can Face Book us at: Perfectchoice Prod. Loveya, Me

  2. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I was pleasantly surprised that I really enjoyed the play. It was funny and intense at the same time.

    I enjoyed all the characters, Qualifah was a hoot and the interplay between Qualifah and Olita was very amusing. I was blown away by Laurenda’s confession (I didn’t see that coming) it felt so real and was so sad, knowing that reactions to dire childhood circumstances directly shapes what kind of adult you become.

    Wow, not only was the actress playing Laurenda a very pretty lady, but I liked her reactions to the other actors, cold disdain to the guys hitting on her, haughty superiority to her fellow seminar attendees that eventually turned into warmth for her fellow gal pals and she can dance too??!!

    I also enjoyed all the poems. One itty bitty thought of constructive criticism, the interplay (fights) between Dante and Kah’lia were very well done, (Kah’lia plays a very good drunk!) but for the small size of the theatre, maybe Dante was projecting a little too much. They really got into their characters, I thought that maybe they were going to destroy the props for their living room, almost knocking that wall down. Very intense and very real there guys.

    Enjoyed the play, thanks for a lovely evening of entertainment!!!

  3. If I could be in California and be a guest in the audience I would have told everyone and anyone about Stacy. I love her with all my heart and so happy she is doing what she has wanted to do for so many years. May her success from this play continue on. I love and miss you Stacy. xoxoxo.

  4. I saw this fabulous production at the Meta Theatre on Melrose and was mesmerized by the quality of acting and the meaning story line. The true meaning of the title “How to Love a Black Woman”, sneaks up on you somewhere in the second act. The casting was superb. Each character was convincing and so believable.

    If you have not seen this one, you’ve done yourself a disservice. Don’t miss the next run. It is well worth the time.
    Detroit Flanagan

  5. If I could share this moment with my aunt Rene it would mean the world to me. She is one of the most creative, educated, and articulate people that I have ever had the privilege to admire. Producing, acting, and playwriting is her calling. I am so proud of her following her heart and dreams even when things seemed to fail. She remains the mouthpiece of the family and a professional deserving of recognition. Keep on keeping on aunty. I love you with all of my heart.

  6. Donna M. Thompson

    This stage play authored and directed by Rene’ Margary is phenomenal! The actor’s use of image and focus is strengthened by the story line of which it portrays! “How To Love A Black Woman” is a riveting, awe-inspiring message for men and women alike of all color! If you want to laugh and cry bring tissue! This play is Awesome! You don’t want to miss it! Great job Rene, cast and crew! My very best to you always! ~ ~ Donna Maria

  7. WOW!! Rene Margret is an amazing and talented woman to write, direct, produce, and act in this truly one of a kind stage play. She has found a way to reach deep inside to find our inner child where hidden and suppressed feelings have been hibernating for years to help understand ourselves better, and the choices we make as adults. The play is extremely entertaining from start to finish, and the ensemble of actors she has put together to portray the characters is truly amazing! Throughout the play Rene interacts with the audience and you really feel like this is real life unfolding right in front of you and you are with the characters. This play has everything, comedy, drama, music, poetry, and most of all leaving you with a sense of understanding yourself a little better, and feeling better for it. This is a must see play for all ages, genders, and all cultural diversities. I will definitely follow this play and go to see it wherever it plays next!!!

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